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Dec 20, 2016 1126 Sherry Antonetti
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Put Down that Phone

I spent Friday evening with five of my children, while my husband took the other four on a trip to visit relatives for a special occasion. Those who stayed behind did so because of obligations during the weekend: a party, a baseball game, a track meet to support the team, an exam to prepare.

But that Friday, none of us had any engagements and … we did not do anything.

We watched a movie. We ate. We talked. We read books. The seven year-old spent fifteen long minutes opening a musical holiday card over and over again, delighting each time the little Valentine’s Day dog barked his jingle.

It was a long, spooled-out-like-honey period of time—an odd Friday night. We did not have anything to do. We merely had each other. It was useless time. And oh so restorative.

Leisure time is not easy for me. A bad habit born of twenty-two years of trying to justify my role as a stay-at-home mom causes me to mimic the sins of Martha, rather than the virtues of Mary. I tend to measure my days by how much I crossed off the to-do list. Yes, the to-do list must get done, but I need to learn how to be still. That Friday was a bit of practicing this art.

With nothing to do, we listened to each other, made eye contact, left the phones unchecked on the counter. I sat at the end of the evening, stroking my son’s head as he held the cherished card and drifted off to sleep. He lives for this nothing time.

It made me think about all the nothing time we should be giving.

— Sitting vigil with a sick or dying friend, where one can do nothing but walk alongside the person suffering, and offering nothing but presence and prayer.

— Listening to the broken-hearted, not trying to fix the problem or plot revenge on the one who inflicted the wounds.

— Showing up to cheer on your teammates, even when you are not competing.

All of these “nothings” matter. They matter more than anything else.

We always long for someone to give time, because time reveals the depth of feeling in a way no other gift can.

Doing nothing with those you love—because with those you love, you can spend hours, doing nothing—is time well spent.

It pulls down a taste of Heaven.

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Sherry Antonetti

Sherry Antonetti (sherryantonettiwrites.blogspot.com) is a full time mom to her ten children. She hosts a weekly column "Small Success Thursdays" at Catholicmom.com, and writes freelance for multiple online and in print newspapers. Her work has appeared in Catholic Digest, Aleteia, National Catholic Register, the Washington Post and the Catholic Standard. Her blog ‘Chocolate for Your Brain’ focuses on parenting and the unique struggles of raising a large Catholic family in the modern age.

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