Home/Enjoy/Article

Aug 01, 2017 2018 Sherry Antonetti
Enjoy

The Happiest and Most Inspiring Pro-Life Story You will Read Today

Sometimes the best thing you can do for the pro-life cause is to just “smile and walk out into the world.”

I have been to marches; I have prayed at clinics. I have written articles and letters to the editor. I have ten children. Yet, the most effective witness I ever gave to the pro-life cause was when I was not trying to do anything other than find a way to not be lonely.

Back in 1993, I became a mother and I felt the walls of the world encompassing me. So I went out seeking connections and adult conversations and anything to help distinguish one day from the next as I worked to recover from pregnancy and adjusted to being a full-time mom.

One day, I saw the receptionist at our apartment management company and it looked like she had been crying. When I asked her what was wrong, she told me, “You.”

I did not understand, but she invited me in to sit with her. It turned out she had just broken up with her boyfriend and found out afterward that she was pregnant. Two girlfriends already offered to drive her to get an abortion, but she said seeing my son every day, holding him as he smiled and kicked, she could not. She just could not.

Her reaction to me actually echoed my own reaction to someone else: I had become a stay-at-home mom because I had seen a baby boy in the daycare and witnessed his smiles. I could not not be with my son, I just could not. That unknown baby’s smiles led to my staying home and being desperately lonely … and that led to sharing my son’s smiles with this pregnant receptionist. I hugged her and we cried over her worries.

We talked about what she could do. I had never counseled anyone before, but we created a plan. It involved calling a doctor to get checked, calling her folks to get support and calling her boyfriend to let him know. I did not know what would happen but told her we would be there for her regardless. She gave my son a kiss and dried her eyes.

I left thinking that the loneliness of being a new stay-at-home mother was nothing compared to hers. It rained hard for the next week, so I did not get out for my daily walk. The few times I made it by the office, she was not there. I worried.

However, the next time I saw her she threw open the door and hugged me. Everyone had rallied for her—her boyfriend and her parents. Now instead of the loneliness, there was a family fully engaged and fired-up alive, eagerly anticipating the child’s birth. They married and before I moved away, they had had a son and a daughter. My son’s smiles allowed another two children’s smiles to be known to the world and a whole host of smiles for the mom, the dad and the grandparents.

It was not marching or protesting or lobbying that won a heart in a crisis pregnancy. It was presence. While we march for all those who were not given the opportunity of life or who were wounded by abortion (fathers, mothers, siblings and everyone else) and while we hope for a defunding of Planned Parenthood, we should recognize the other part of being pro-life: We have to be more pro-life and pro-living than protesting.

Smile and walk out into the world and know that God will put you where you can be most effective.

Share:

Sherry Antonetti

Sherry Antonetti (sherryantonettiwrites.blogspot.com) is a full time mom to her ten children. She hosts a weekly column "Small Success Thursdays" at Catholicmom.com, and writes freelance for multiple online and in print newspapers. Her work has appeared in Catholic Digest, Aleteia, National Catholic Register, the Washington Post and the Catholic Standard. Her blog ‘Chocolate for Your Brain’ focuses on parenting and the unique struggles of raising a large Catholic family in the modern age.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Latest Articles